Hey everyone! Today I have a special guest post!!!
Hey! I'm Sara, from herelectricocean.blogspot.co.uk I'm so excited to be writing for Lizzie, so I hope you guys enjoy my post. If you want to pop over to my blog after reading this, please do- we have a range of different posts ranging from topics like Girl Online to a Budget haul I'm sure you'll be able to find something that tickles your fancy!
We all have those days, when everything seems to be going wrong. When things that seemed simple and well organised yesterday, seem chaotic and impossible today. You just feel like not doing anything, and all you want to do is hide in your bed all day- I hear you, believe me.
"When things aren't going your way, it's your choice to give up or turn things around"
Here are 10 things that you can do when things just aren't going your way.
- Try to have a positive attitude to your situation
- This can be really difficult at times, because when things aren't going your way your mind automatically thinks "Oh no" and starts reminding you of everything that has gone wrong, and everything that could go wrong. But what I want you to do, is turn that around and look at the pros of your situation.
- Recently I've had an issue with school. I chose my subjects for my last year of high school, and it turns out that the way that the timetable worked out, I have to choose between two subjects I was really looking forward to, and am forced to take a subject I didn't really want to take. And my first reaction was to mope around and be really upset about it. But that wasn't going to get me anywhere, and one of my close friends pointed out that actually, maybe this would be more useful to me in the future. On every cloud there's a silver lining, as cliché as that is.
- Put it in perspective
- There are actually very few true emergencies in life, so maybe it's time for you to realise that your situation might not be as bad as it seems. No matter how bad your day is going, it probably doesn't mean as much in the big scheme of things. Problems are inevitable, and when life seems hard to bear, remember that someday this struggle will be over
- Talk to a friend about it
- Sometimes talking about your problems with a friend (or group of friends) can help you realise how trivial they are. And if after rattling on about your situation you don't feel any better, it might be good for you to listen to an outside view on the problem. Your friends know you better than you know yourself sometimes, and they will be able to give you good advice on whatever is going on- that's what friends are for after all!
- Do something else
- If one thing isn't working out, maybe it's time for you to step away for a while and give something else a shot. After having a breather, focusing your attention to something else, or maybe just taking a break and relaxing for a while, you might find yourself in a better head space to tackle whatever has been going wrong.
- Create a rant book
- If you find yourself getting agitated pretty often, it might be a good idea to keep a document of it. Not too long ago, I recommended one of my friends to try writing a rant book. Because I wasn't always there to reply to her online or whatever, I thought it might be helpful for her to put her issues into writing, but in a way that she would be able to read over it after a while. Sometimes we make a mountain out of a molehill, and it can always be a good laugh to look back at the times that everything seemed terrible, and realising that things weren't actually that bad. And much like a diary, rant books can help you let off steam without having the worry of offending anyone, because unless you choose to share it with anyone, it's private.
- Make a list of things you have to do
- Sometimes people get wound up and agitated because we feel like we have too much. Maybe putting it into a simple check-box list will help you see what you have to do, and let you take smaller tasks on at a time, rather than trying to juggle everything at once.
- Remind yourself that you are amazing, and you can get through this
- It can be hard to see anything good in yourself when everything is going wrong. You just feel like blaming yourself for everything bad that is going on, and that can be really tough, because it leaves you feel totally empty of motivation. Taking a few seconds to remind yourself how amazing you are, and that you are strong and determined enough to fight this situation and make it better, can make all the difference.
- Don't worry about other people
- When you're in the middle of a catastrophe, and someone calls you up asking for your help, the last thing you want to do is turn them down. But you have to remember that you can't help anyone properly if you can't help yourself. Telling them "Not now" can be hard, but sometimes you just need to be a bit selfish in order to be healthy.
- What can you learn from it?
- So the situation sucks, and you feel rubbish. You can't find anything positive about it, because it just all seems too much for you to bear. But look at it again; what can you learn from this experience? You lost all your documents and drafts? Remember to keep backups for the next time. You fell out with your close friend? Remember what ticks them off, and try not to go there again. There's always something you can learn from your trials.
- Remember it won't last forever
- Today might be completely rubbish, but don't stay in that rubbish place forever. There's always tomorrow and there's always a chance for things to get better. Your problems won't last forever, and everything will sort itself out.
Some other things that help me take hold of a bad day/week/month or whatever, are going on runs (exercise is really good for maintaining a positive attitude), listening to music, reading a book or magazine (or blog of course!), or colouring in. Yes, colouring in.
What helps you get out of your slumps?
Thanks again, Sara for this great post!
Thanks again, Sara for this great post!